Who takes the lead

Who plays a more dominant role while dancing?

 The man or the woman?

By Jana Jankovic

              Although women like to be in control of their relationships, in salsa it’s the guy who holds the power. In this case, the women seem to be the followers, while men take charge of the situation and guide us as they please. Sometimes, I think this may be a pretty good arrangement in romantic relationships as well. The only problem is, the men don’t always know when and how to take charge. Perhaps this is our fault.

   When I first began learning salsa, I had a difficult time accepting that the   man was in charge, and giving up control. I often had to remind        myself to relax, breathe, and most importantly – trust. In any partnership if you don’t trust one another, the dance, relationship, or friendship will most likely fail. We must allow ourselves to let go, and our partners to guide us.

              It’s understandable  that when we can’t predict the next move we want to control it. Yet, I found it best when I simply stopped thinking about it all together. If you listen to the music and pay attention to details, it’s incredible how much you’ll actually feel in control. The squeeze of the hand or light pressure on your shoulder blade sends you signals to prepare you for the next spin, dip, or cross body lead. I still found my partner guiding me but felt more in control of my body and mind. Confidence goes a long way, and of course with practice you’ll have the perfect balance between you and your partner. After all, isn’t that what partnership is all about?

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